Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Addicted to Drama?

I would suppose that, if asked, most would say that creating unnecessary drama in life is a bad thing. The pejorative terms “Drama Queen” and “Drama Llama” suggest a dim view of drama, particularly when magnified out of proportion.

But what about the drama that just seems to happen despite our assumption that we prefer to avoid it? For those who seem to struggle against continual challenges, life can seem hard and unfair. We certainly didn’t ask for our problems, did we?

Despite the supposition that we desire peace and tranquility, many of us have a penchant for stirring the pot when things remain uneventful for too long.

Relationships are a great example; for some reason, many unconsciously attract partners that are guaranteed to clash with them. The friction points may be personality traits, behavioral problems, or karmic issues from previous lives. The conscious mind seems to overlook these issues while the unconscious steadily homes in and plants the hooks. The result is drama that appears to have no resolution.

At other times, a relationship that seems relatively serene is thrown into chaos by a casual affair or a thoughtless action. Why would anyone invite drama into their lives this way unless there is a desire for it? The emotional pain and turmoil that result would appear to be unwanted, but are we really unaware of what we are attracting?

Then we have our workplace dramas, money dramas, parenting dramas, health dramas. Of course, unpleasant or unfortunate events can simply happen in life, seemingly out of our control. However, when the dramas have a repeating pattern, there is reason to suspect that an unconscious mental program is creating them.

An argument can be made that simply to incarnate on this planet is to invite drama. Earth is known as a tough school and a difficult place to exist in. Souls that come here generally have an ambitious agenda to overcome challenges or balance karmic debts, so struggle is often a natural result of simply being here.

For those who long for a placid existence with no problems to resolve should remember that such a state of bliss was undoubtedly one of the choices available before birth. The fact that we are here is evidence that we chose tough challenges over the alternative. Perhaps bliss becomes boring after a while.

This is not to equate life’s normal challenges with unnecessary drama. The soul chooses challenges that it thinks are possible to overcome. To be beaten down with no hope and to remain stuck in endless cycles of defeat and failure – this outcome is most likely not on the soul’s agenda. This discussion concerns what I term “unnecessary drama” that remains locked in place.

We do seem to get bored when things are too easy. We create contrived dramas, in the form of sports and video games, as well as traditional drama in novels, movies and plays. Football is a great example of a contrived drama: We become invested emotionally in whether our team wins or loses. Each game represents another drama in which the possibility exists to become elated by winning at the risk of disappointment over losing. Following an emotional loss, it’s useful to realize that others not sharing interest in the sport are not experiencing the pain of disappointment. The drama was freely subscribed to by the faithful fans.

Wouldn’t we get bored with a team that always wins, or video games that are easy to beat? I can recall that classic Twilight Zone episode where a gangster gets killed in a shootout with police, and arrives at a place where everything seems welcoming and friendly. The women are always eager to provide every comfort, and he can’t lose at casino games. His initial delight soon turns to frustration, and he asks the caretaker why he ended up here? He had been a rather bad guy, so why not the “other place”? The caretaker (burly guy played by Sebastion Cabot) laughs and says “my dear fellow, what were you thinking? This is the other place! Bwahahaha!”

But again, if we chose our challenges before birth, we also had intentions of overcoming them. Sometimes, being stuck in a cycle of endless struggle can be a sign that we have become addicted to the drama. Relationships can be a happy adventure of two people growing and overcoming obstacles together, but repeatedly attracting a drama-filled relationship that brings only suffering and misery is probably not what the soul intended.

The same principle holds for money issues. Becoming successful and prosperous in our life’s work can be emotionally rewarding, particularly if obstacles were overcome along the way. There might be some drama along the way, but there is time to enjoy the reward of success afterward. Endless struggle with money can indicate addiction to the drama. Success would result in the drama fading away , so some unconscious form of self-sabotage ensures that this does not happen.

Anyone feeling stuck with repeated cycles of drama would be advised to take a careful self-inventory. The drama addiction can be so subtle that you are completely unaware of your part in creating it. Motivational gurus will tell you to burn your old beliefs about money and success, but the drama addiction program often flies under the radar.

Look for patterns that have repeated over and over. Is your job a source of drama? This is often coupled with the “lack of money” drama. You feel compelled to “slave away” under stressful conditions to scrape up enough to live on. There is generally an overbearing boss, annoying colleague, or some variation on the theme of unpleasant working conditions. You may have changed jobs, only to discover that the same players reappear under different names and guises. You resort to wishful thinking for a solution, such as winning the lottery. You contemplate your apparent options and dwell on your fears, which include ultimately ending up homeless and living under a bridge.

Here is some really big news! Most likely, you created the entire drama! How this actually works is a huge mystery, but each negative player or situation in you drama originated between your two ears! The big question is why. Perhaps the drama centers around a life lesson or theme that your soul brought into this life. Oftentimes the lesson is learned, the soul’s experience is complete, but you remain stuck in the mud. Perhaps you never understood the lesson and resisted it all along. Now is a good time to take that self-inventory and get in touch with your higher self!

Here is more good news: Once you take responsibility for the drama and realize that you no longer need it, the drama tends to just fade away. Troublesome players in your life begin to move away or simply start acting differently (at least in your perception). If your goal is to attain enough income to live comfortably without having to endure stress or obsess over it, then such possibilities will begin to open up. Your job should ideally be an extension of what you enjoy doing, and should be a creative outlet for the soul’s expression. This should be the norm in the absence of a drama program.

Something similar applies to relationships. Partners are attracted by mysterious forces that operate beneath your conscious awareness. If the drama program is doing the attracting, guess what the results are. If your unconscious mind is free of drama programs, and gets into alignment with your conscious intent of attracting good people into your life, then good things will follow.

With health issues, we must realize that most illness has inception somewhere deep on the unconscious level. Negative emotional patterns can lock in toxic amounts of energy in various parts of the body. Medical intuitives can sense the pattern even before disease is manifested. In a real sense, illness is a drama created by the prevailing emotional and thought patterns. When allopathic medicine treats the illness, it tends to come back or manifest somewhere else in the body because the drama program is still running. The ultimate answer is to clear the emotional and energetic baggage, and thereby terminate the drama program. Many have experienced spontaneous healing simply by working on that level.
In a balanced, “fully actualized” life, there is always room to grow and new goals to achieve. This should be sufficient stimulus for the soul so as not to induce boredom. Being bored is stressful  in itself and is a symptom of being stuck and imbalanced. A bored soul can create drama just to stir up some action. The fully actualized person will have removed blocks and barriers to the soul’s expression, so resorting to drama shouldn’t be needed. All action will take place under conscious intent and guidance, and will be aligned with the soul’s highest goals and aspirations. This is the prescription for a truly happy and prosperous life.